By Greg Quinlan
Why have gay
activists instigated media attention over ex-gays and the husband of
Presidential candidate Michelle Bachmann?
Bachmann, who has a PhD in clinical psychology, operates several
counseling centers which also offer services to homosexual clients
seeking to overcome unwanted same-sex attractions. But because
even one ex-gay proves that homosexual behavior is not innate or
immutable, the gay lobby's fear of their former members results in
false claims and attacks aimed at preventing homosexuals from
exercising their right to self-determination. They cannot bear to
have even one homosexual leave homosexuality, hence their outrage at
I know because I
am ex-gay myself. I suffer more harassment as a former
homosexual than I ever did as an out and proud homosexual.
community includes thousands of former homosexuals like myself who
benefited from counseling. We did not choose our homosexual
feelings, but we did exercise our right to seek help to change those
feelings. As a registered nurse, I saw hundreds of gay men die
of AIDS before I finally left the gay lifestyle.
Contrary to the
myths being generated by outraged homosexuals, counseling for
unwanted same-sex attractions is not prohibited by any medical
association. Unhappy homosexuals are not children in need of
parental permission and can freely choose their own therapeutic
treatment just like anyone else.
incident demonstrates that as homosexuals gain more civil rights,
heterosexuals are losing theirs. Because gays are a wealthy
and politically powerful minority, they claim access to media
attention, political power and corporate influence that middle
America does not have.
Dependent on the
wealth of the gay community for his election and reelection
campaigns, President Obama vigorously implements gay, bisexual and
transgender policies at every level of the federal government, yet
omits the only unpopular status of sexual orientation -- that of
ex-gay. But to his credit, Obama refused to cave in to
homosexuals when they demanded he remove ex-gay singer Donnie
McClurkin from a campaign fundraiser.
needs to demonstrate that kind of courage once more, and support
those who change their sexual orientation as much as he supports
those who change their gender. But who will ask him? A jittery media
fearful of gay reprisals remain silent, a further testament to
homosexual influence and power.
While the media
look the other way, the ex-gay community is being harassed and
publicly denounced by unforgiving gay activists because of our
unpopular sexual orientation.
Wayne Besen of
the hate group Truth Wins Out, and other modern day Sauls, stalk and
expose 'out' ex-gays in a negative light to ensure that they retreat
back into the closet. Lambda Legal supports the establishment
of GLBT Centers at public universities but blocks any attempt at
ex-gay equal access. Corporate shareholder resolutions to
include ex-gays in anti-discrimination policies are repeatedly
defeated by the gay community.
The Human Rights
Campaign demands same-sex marriage for gays while fighting ex-gay
equality. One of their latest victories is to successfully bully the
World Bank into denying funds to ex-gay charities while allowing gay
organizations to participate.
Yet ex-gays are
not dangerous or deluded as homosexual extremists charge. We
are the National Education Association's Ex-Gay Educators Caucus.
We are Parents and Friends of Ex-Gays & Gays, which successfully
sued the District of Columbia government for refusing to recognize
former homosexuals in its sexual orientation protections. We
are your doctors, teachers, ministers, family, and neighbors.
Psychological Association adheres to a code of ethics which calls on
their members to respect a person's right to self-determination.
Therefore the only question about the Dr. Bachmann news is this:
Should homosexuals have the right to determine heterosexuality?
That is, if a gay man decides he wants to live as a healthy
heterosexual, as I decided, should homosexuals have the right to
veto that decision?
The answer will
determine if America is to be ruled by a politically powerful
minority like the gay community, or if equality and justice for all
will prevail. As for me, I long to live in an America where my
friends and I are not hounded by gay activists because I chose
to change from gay to straight.
Greg Quinlan is President of Parents
and Friends of Ex-Gays & Gays and
Executive Director of Equality and Justice For All.